Friday, 25 January 2019

Let's Talk Babies: Four Years Into Our Infertility Journey

It's been a while since I did one of these. To be honest, our infertility journey has somewhat stalled as I've been told by my GP they won't refer me to the fertility specialists until I've lost six stone. Which seems grossly unfair, but they want me to fit into their BMI boxes. And apparently I'm currently 'morbidly obese' (at a size 16/18)!

This year, I turn 29. And I really, really wanted to have our first child before I turn 30. And that's looking less and less likely as the days fly past. So I'm determined to make this the year I throw everything at the baby-making, whilst also attempting to lose some weight so that in the event we aren't able to get pregnant naturally, I'll be able to get some professional help.

So, we've increased how often we have sex. We're sticking to missionary or doggy, as this position apparently deposits the sperm nearer where it needs to go due to deeper penetration. We've also got a designated 'sex pillow' which I put under my pelvis during missionary to raise my pelvis. And although there's conflicting advice on whether or not it makes any difference in getting pregnant after sex, I'm lying down with our sex pillow under my pelvis for 15 minutes after sex every time. 

I've also got us both on the Pregnacare Vitabiotics His and Her Conception Tablets. And I've bought some lube, Conceive Plus Fertility Lubricant, which has rave reviews. Lots of the reviews say that they've been trying for a year or more, and got pregnant their first time using this lube. So fingers crossed. I'm not a fan of lube, I find it messy and gross, but at this point in time, I'm willing to try anything!

See, we've been trying for four years now. Christmas 2018 marked four years. And so many great things have happened in those four years, that might not have if we'd gotten pregnant when we first started trying. Getting married, getting our cat, my new job. But we now want a baby to complete our little family.

I have learnt so much on this infertility journey. From advice from fellow PCOS sufferers, and tips and tricks from mums who also struggled with getting pregnant. To medical advice from my GP and online, and old wives' tales. And I'm trying everything so long as it's safe, sane, and not going to stop me getting pregnant. Because dammit, this year is my year. I've seen 99% of our friends have one, two, three babies each. And I'm still childless. It's my turn, and I don't care how petulant that sounds. I don't know how many more pregnancy announcements I can handle while I'm still without child. 

I don't know when I'll share another update to our infertility journey. I do have an appointment with a new GP at the end of this month who has a specialist interest in women's reproductive health. I'm hoping she might be able to move things along. I'll definitely post again in this series as soon as I have any news. Be it new techniques/meds/medical advice or, better yet, the good news that we're finally pregnant. Because I'm telling myself it's not 'if', it's 'when'. It's going to happen. We're going to become parents.

Wish us luck!


  1. One of my friends had been trying for 5 years and finally got pregnant after losing a bit of weight so there is some method to the madness.
    I am a reflexologist and fascinated by the effects of fertility and reflexology. I met a lady a few days ago wi said she wouldn't have her son if it wasnt for reflexology.
    I know I'm a hypocrite being a therapist, but I'd suggest any couple struggling to conceive to look into visiting a (fully qualified, ideally with the AoR) reflexologist.

    Tea in the Tub

  2. Fingers crossed the new GP will be of some help to you, and this could be the year for you! :) Tania Michele xx