Friday, 7 October 2016

Let's Talk Weddings: Engagement, Venues and The Dress!

I'm finally getting around to writing my first post in a brand-new, very exciting series documenting our wedding; from the engagement to the big day itself! I thought I'd kick the series off by talking about our engagement, and the early stages of planning that we're in currently. So grab a cup of tea and settle in, because this is probably going to be a long one! 

Chris and I got engaged four months ago. We've been together for almost six years; and living together for almost as long. So it's about bloody time, to be honest! Our engagement was not a romantic event. Being sensible and pragmatic as we both are, the proposal was more of a discussion, and the ring was chosen together. I think I actually went for the ring that Chris preferred, in the end; although I had it narrowed down to two, this one was the nicer ring! Once the ring was on my finger, it was just a question of telling everyone, and once our nearest and dearest had been told in person, we made it "Facebook official." 

We had initially agreed on a Spring 2018 wedding; in order to give ourselves time to save up the money to pay for the damn thing! But thanks to our families, we've been able to bring the wedding forward to late Summer/early Autumn 2017. We're actually aiming for a September wedding, because; 

1. September is my birth month!
2. The weather in September is usually pretty decent. 
3. It's not too far away, but not so soon we'll be in a mad rush to get it all organised. I mean, a year is a good amount of time to organise a wedding in, right?

But, it's now October, and we still don't even have a venue. Oh, the wedding woes! No one told me it would be this hard to agree on a venue. We've seen about 10, already, and we've still got a few lined up. But the ones we both like are over budget. The ones I like, he doesn't like. And vice versa. Oh, it's so difficult! I'm very concerned that if we don't decide on a venue soon, there won't be any dates left for September 2017. But, we both agree, we can't rush into this decision. If it means we have to move the wedding back to October, it's worth it to find the perfect venue, right? After all, we're only planning to do this once!

We've been to so many wedding fairs, and wedding open days, in the last two months that my head is spinning. I struggle to keep them all straight. This is an example of a conversation between my fiancé and I;

Him: What were the room prices for XYZ
Me: The one with the lake? 
Him: No, the one with the golf course.
Me: They had a golf course?!

So you can see why it can get confusing sometimes. I really need to get my wedding organiser, from Busy B, out and put it to good use, actually. It might help us avoid some of the confusion, at least!

So I can't tell you much about our venue yet, because we don't have one. But I can tell you a little bit about my dress. Because I've known what I wanted, when it came to my wedding dress, since I was about twelve. And apparently, what I want? Not that easy to get! Because I'm not going for the traditional white, or ivory, or cream. Oh no. I'm wearing lilac on my wedding day. That's right. Lilac. And nowhere sells lilac off the rack. I've spoken to enough bridal boutiques to know that buying a lilac wedding dress from a store just ain't gonna happen. So I have two options, apparently; 

1. Have the dress custom-made.
2. Choose a bridesmaid/prom dress, instead.

Bridesmaids/prom dresses come in a lot of different colours. I'm much more likely to find a lilac bridesmaid/prom dress off the rack, than I am a lilac wedding dress. And I'm okay with that. I mean, who cares if it's *technically* a prom dress? As long as I like it, and I look good in it, that's all that matters, right? I still need to look into having the dress custom-made for me, but I'm already anticipating that this will cost a lot of money; and I'm really not prepared to overspend on a dress I'm only going to wear once. 

So, that's the venue and the dress. Oh, the suits. My fiancé is being very efficient, for once, and has already decided what sort of suit he wants, what colours, and who he wants to rent from. I'm pretty sure I'd have been that organised, too, if I wasn't so determined to have a lilac wedding dress! I think the bridesmaid's dresses should be pretty easy; they'll be a deep purple and each bridesmaid will have a different style neckline; one thick straps, one one-strap, one strapless etc. They can choose what style they prefer, anyway; I'm not going to become a crazy bridezilla who says "YOU MUST WEAR THIS DRESS!!" I want my friends to still like me after the wedding...!

Well, this turned into a much longer post than I anticipated. But I've really enjoyed sharing all the details I have so far about our wedding with you! I'm hoping to post a new "Let's Talk Weddings" post every month but, let's be honest, some months there really won't be that much to talk about (especially while we don't have a venue!) So I might skip a month or two here and there. But as soon as I have more to share, I'll post again. And I really hope you enjoyed this, and enjoy the rest of the series!

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